In
many countries direct eye-contact during conversation between a younger and an older
person shows disrespect, but such behavior here is viewed with suspicion. How do you
change this belief?
One small step toward acculturation that many ESL teachers make is to invite their
students to an end-of-semester party in the teachers home. Such an event will often
be the firstand maybe, for a long time, the onlytime the foreign students will
be inside an American residence.
It was during such a party that the incident occurred that I immediately
thought of on 9-11.
My class that semester was large and by the time the students and their friends,
spouses, and family members had all arrived for the party there were some 40 people
present. One look around the living room and you thought you were at the United Nations.
Four continents (Asia, Africa, Europe, South America) were represented, and a dozen
countries and languages.
Things were going swimmingly. The dining table groaned under a feast of potluck
contributions. Non-alcoholic refreshments were flowing freely. Conversation was brisk and
in the yard a multinational soccer game was in progress.
Problem: Aware that dogs are neither common nor welcome in some cultures, we had shut
our mixed-breed in a bedroom. At some point, a student searching for the bathroom opened
the bedroom door. The dog of course, ecstatic to be free, came bounding into the living
room.
A young women, the date of an Arab student, screamed as the dog came toward her. I was
in the room and immediately grabbed the dog by the collar and took him back to the
bedroom. My wife was also present. She began to console the young woman and assure her
that the dog was gone and would not come back.
By the time I returned, I could see that the young woman, though upset, understood the
situation and was calming down. Her date, the Arab student, was a different matter. His
face, a livid red, showed an expression of pure rage. Another Arab student spoke to him
but he was beyond words. A few tense minutes passed as other students tried to resume
partying. My wife stayed with the young woman, who was clearly becoming relaxed.
Abruptly, her date took her by the arm, jerked her up and they left the party,
accompanied by another of the Arab students.
I was disturbed and talked to the remaining Arabs, who assured me all was well.
The party continued to a normal conclusion. Afterward my wife and I discussed the
incident and I said I would apologize to the student next day in class.
Next morning, leaving the house for work, we discovered that one of the windows in my
wifes car had been smashed. Not cracked, but violently hit so that the entire window
had shattered.
I never saw the Arab student again. He was not in class that morning and never
re-appeared. I asked his fellow students about him, and all they would say was that he
unexpectedly had to "go back to his country." I checked with the school office.
They knew nothing. The student had not officially withdrawn. He had apparently just left.
Though I never learned what actually happened, my feeling, when I talked to the other
Arab students, was that they were deeply embarrassed by the display of
uncontrolled anger. I didnt mention the broken window but it was clear that they
knew what had happened and that somehow they had "arranged" for the offending
student simply to disappear.
Flash forward now to 9-11, and after. We quickly learned that most of the hijackers
were Saudi Arabian. In the months that followed we slowly learned that Osama himself was
strangely elusive. Story after story was spun from Washington and Kabul about the hunt and
how it was hindered by terrain and weather, by language problems, by cultural differences.
The Osama videos ceased. And news of the hunt dwindled to a trickle.
Heres a theory for you, based on the small, unpleasant incident described above.
Considering the lack of hard evidence, you can make of it what you will.
Theory:
In the tribal culture of the Middle East, Osama, as long as he was meddling
only in Israeli-Palestinian affairs or even taking over an entire barren country, was let
go his own way by his very rich fellow clan members. To some he no doubt seemed a black
sheep, to others he was clearly he hero.
With the events of 9-11 all that changed. He had attacked successfully!the
source of all wealth and stability in the world. Whatever problems the Saudis have with
America, and there are many, they know that without America their part of the world will
descend into utter chaos. And here was one of their own using his own wealth to
attack the maintainer of order.
My guess is that after 9-11, the Saudi ruling class set out to "rectify" the
gross mis-step of Osama bin Laden quietly and completely, just as the students in my class
had quietly and completely "rectified" their fellows outburst of violent
rage. How? Simple. You cause him to disappear. No apologies, no explanations. One
day hes there, the next hes not. End of story.
I suspect that Osama has been similarly "taken care of" but probably to more
dire effect. Most likely, using cultural resources that no Western spy agency or military
force has access to, my guess is that the Saudis had him tracked down, and
"removed."
The discontent that produced him, and 9-11, still simmers. And no doubt we will see
other evidence of the uncontrollable rage that produces broken windows or collapsed
skyscrapers.
But most likely the Saudis have cleaned their own house and have very quietly
made it absolutely clear that no such future breaches of "etiquette" will be
tolerated.
Such a possibility raises interesting questions. If this is what has happened, do the
Bush forces know this? Do they surmise it? Is Osama bin Laden now just a convenient (even
though non-existent) stalking horse for the "war on terrorism"? Is the Bush
determination to invade Iraq part of some informal understanding with the Saudis:
You get rid of Osama and well get rid of Saddam (of course publicly the Saudis would
have to maintain a pose of shocked aggrievement at the thought of Americans invading their
neighbor).
Given the abundant proof of duplicity and totalitarian leanings in this Bush
administration, such speculations sadly cannot be easily dismissed.